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Becoming Real

Tian Dayton MA, PhD, TEP
“How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone.” – Coco Chanel


All I need to be today, is who I am. My job is to actualize the gifts that are in me. I am better off discovering and mining my own unique talents and working to bring them forward, than trying to imitate someone else’s talents. I will live each day as it comes. I will allow my authentic self to emerge into the moment and manage my responses to life in an emotionally sober and conscious way. Recovery is a process of facing and removing those obstacles that are in the way of my becoming more of me. It has been my willingness to risk and trust that my Higher Power will hold me that has brought me to life again, that has turned the long and lonesome road back to myself into a spiritual challenge and adventure. I recognize today that I am more alive when I stop trying to be whatever it is that I think I should be in order to be okay, and I allow myself to refine and attend to who I am.


I am open to life and all it holds.   




You are reading from One Foot in Front of the Other: Daily Affirmations for Recovery by Tian Dayton, PhD (Health Communications, Inc., 9780757317880, paperback, 384 pages, $11.96).

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Tian Dayton, PhD, is the author of sixteen books, including The ACoA Trauma Syndrome; Emotional Sobriety; Trauma and Addiction; Forgiving and Moving On; and The Living Stage. In addition, Dr. Dayton has developed a model for using sociometry and psychodrama to resolve issues related to relationship trauma repair. She is a board-certified trainer in psychodrama, sociometry, and group psychotherapy and is the director of The New York Psychodrama Training Institute.